This is our best shot at communication; using words. Sure, there is bodylanguage and other subtle methods of communicating, but the words will always be in the lead. They are in our heads, in our inner as well as outher, dialogues. Because our way of communicating can say a lot about ourselves (and others), it might be very helpful do take up the hobby of wordwatching.
Watch, without judgement, the inner dialogue. What are you really saying to yourself? And how does it make you feel?
Next, you might want to ask yourself how you can change the way you talk to yourself?
This is not only a useful hobby to get to know oneself, but to avoid harming others. There is a Buddhist list of priorities which goes like this:
“First, try to do good to others and the world, secondly – at least try to not do too much harm to others and the world”
Words can cause a lot of harm. Once spoken, words can never be taken back. Carefylly watching the words before they slip out can create happiness instead of sorrow for your fellow human being. There is a old mindfulness-wisom considering the words that want to come out of your mouth, or be written by your hand. Before allowing them out into the world, see if they can pass through theese gates, answering the questions with a true heart:
1. Is what you are saying/writing true?
2. Is what I am saying/writing necessary?
3. Is what I am saying/writing kind?
4. Is it the right time?
